One of the biggest turn-offs for me in dealing with others is inconsistency: hot-cold relationships. One minute nice, the next minute mean. One minute warm and friendly, the next minute cold and distant. People who act like that are so insecure and afraid of commitment that they're unable to develop a true and meaningful connection with another person. I don't do hot and cold. I'm consistent and require consistency in my relationships. You need to make up your mind: you're either in, or you're out. And if you're out, you will stay out! That applies to all kinds of relationships: friendship, work, or romance. It makes life simple and clear. Less hassle and guesswork, with a smaller group of real human connections, not just lots of names on a contact list. Go, get a life. “在與人交往時，最讓我反感的一點就是前后不一致：忽冷忽熱的關系。一會兒親切友好，一會兒又刻薄冷漠。一會兒熱情友好，一會兒又冷淡疏遠。 那些行事如此的人極度缺乏安全感，且害怕承諾，以至于他們無法與另一個人建立真正有意義的聯系。我不玩忽冷忽熱，我的態度始終如一，并需要在人際關系中保持一致性。 你必須下定決心：要么全身心投入，要么徹底退出。而一旦選擇退出，就必須堅持到底！這適用于各種關系：友誼、工作或戀愛。它讓生活變得簡單