Be someone who still tries. After failure, frustrations, and heartache Be a person who musters up the courage to try and believe that good things are yet to come.,?? 做那個仍在努力的人。 在經(jīng)歷了失敗、挫折和心痛之后， 成為那種鼓起勇氣、并堅信美好事物即將到來的人。??

一次頓悟并不足以改變?nèi)松?，她只是躲過了第一顆子彈，而前路還很漫長。她得學(xué)會動態(tài)地活著，與她所有的問題共存。 ——傅真《斑馬》

The most attractive thing a man can do is show he’s protective over you in every situation, not just when it’s easy or expected but even in the smallest, unnoticed moments. It’s how he stands beside you when things get hard, defends you when you’re not there to defend yourself and pays attention to your safety, comfort and peace of mind. Protectiveness isn’t about control, it’s about care, respect and the quiet promise that you’ll never have to face the world alone.?? 一個男人所能做的最有吸引力的事情，就是在各種情況下都展現(xiàn)出他對你的保護(hù)，而不僅僅是在輕松或合情合理的時候，甚至是在最微小、最不引人注意的時刻也是如此。這意味著在困難時刻他站在你身旁，在你無法自我保護(hù)時為你辯護(hù)，并關(guān)注你的安全、舒適和內(nèi)心的平靜。保護(hù)欲并非關(guān)乎控制，而是關(guān)乎關(guān)懷、尊重，以及一個無聲的承諾：你永遠(yuǎn)不必獨自面對世界。??

“在人際關(guān)系上，別人如何評價你，那是別人的課題，你根本無法左右，太在意別人的視線和評價，才會不斷尋求別人的認(rèn)可，換言之，自由就是不再尋求認(rèn)可，我們沒必要去滿足別人的期待?！? ——岸見一郎

Child. Listen to me. Open up your heart for a moment and listen. You don’t need to banish your anger or bury your grief and sadness. The fact that you may feel anger about some injustice or inequity; the fact that you have the capacity to feel grief and sadness means that life still touches you. Learn to trust the wisdom-river flowing beneath the river of these emotions. Learn to walk with your depression, your anxiety, your anger as a teacher and a friend. The fact that you feel means that you care. The thing you really have to watch out for is indifference. The ones who don’t feel anything are the ones who are destroying the world. 孩子，聽我說。請暫時敞開你的心扉，用心聆聽。你無須壓抑憤怒，也不必深埋悲傷。你或許會對某些不公或不平感到憤怒，而你有感受悲傷的能力，這本身就說明生命仍在對你產(chǎn)生影響。 學(xué)會信任流淌在這些情緒之河下的智慧之河。學(xué)會與你的抑郁、你的焦慮、你的憤怒一同前行，視其為導(dǎo)師和朋友。你感到這些情緒的存在，意味著你在乎它們。而真正需要注意的，是冷漠。那些感覺不到任何情緒的人，正是那些正在毀滅世界的人。

And I finally understand that the most important ingredient of any healthy relationship was the feeling of safety. Feeling safe enough to know that you can be your real, true, messy, vulnerable self and be loved just the way you are. 我終于明白，任何健康關(guān)系中最重要的是“安全感”這一要素。 感到足夠安全，知道自己可以展現(xiàn)真實的、純粹的、雜亂無章的、脆弱的自我，并且被以本來的樣子所愛。

“生活中有四件事可以改變你：愛、音樂、文字和失去。前三件事讓人心生希望，請允許最后一件事使你變得勇敢。” ——萬特特

If putting myself first makes me selfish, then so be it. I choose to prioritize my peace, my dreams and my growth. I will always honor my time, protect my energy and surround myself with what truly uplifts me. After all, safeguarding my happiness and feeling truly secure is my foremost responsibility. 如果把自己放在首位讓我顯得自私，那就這樣吧。我選擇優(yōu)先考慮自己的平靜、夢想和成長。我將始終珍惜時間，保護(hù)精力，并與真正能讓我振奮的事物為伴。畢竟，守護(hù)自己的幸福并感到真正的安全，是我的首要責(zé)任。

忙碌， 是世界上最便宜的藥， 寧可累點，也別閒著， 忙碌充實的生活， 足以沖淡複雜的情緒。 忙是治癒一切的良藥， 只有忙起來，才不會胡思亂想， 有目的，有規(guī)劃的忙， 日子在忙忙碌碌中充實， 生活在粗茶淡飯中生香， 慢慢你就會明白， 閒人是非多，一忙解千愁……